Imagine "Bokor" only the ‘o’s are backwards ‘c’s, its one of the few words you’ll see here written in Twi. I’ll come to the meaning in a second, but on this last day here in Ghana, I begin the reflection on what has happened.
Things I will not miss so much.
The traffic. It is actually organized chaos meaning that the cars are driving in one direction or the other, but other than that, every vehicle for itself! Which means lots of honking. I loathe honking. People honk for NO reason here. This is no “honk for Jesus” either. I’ve ridden in a cab four times and every time they honk about every seven seconds. And of course when I’m walking on the road, everytime a cab comes by, it honks. So much noise.
The mosquitos. Bastards gave me malaria, but I think I should use a different word, considering only FEMALES can give malaria. Women, they’re nothing but trouble!
The TV. I cannot deposit my frustration enough on the crap people watch here. Sometimes its on in the hostel lobby, but I reached my boiling point on the bus back from Ho. I was feeling sick, it’s 5:30 in the morning, and the bus driver is blasting this awful AWFUL soap opera thing while we’re driving back. After our first pit stop, someone mercifully told the driver to turn it off. The show is one big bickerfest. I don't get it! That’s all they do, argue about stuff you’d normally argue about on a day to day basis. Eating in the street, not cleaning up after yourself, etc. etc. And the people here, they eat it up, watching glossy-eyed at this rubbish where people yell at each other. Not funny, not entertaining, not scary, but people watch. Maybe its just a cult following like “Snakes on a Plane.”
The damned chickens. Ubiquitous and multiplying as ever. Did I mention we killed two last week? I say we, because I got to go around the “hunting party.” You do it by catching them at night, chasing them down and shining a flashlight in their eyes…it freezes, you grab it by it’s neck, game, set, match. But they’re moody, and they “think” (I say this tentatively, because I am as yet unsure, if that word can appropriately attached to this aninmal) it’s a swell idea to make as much racket as possible when they see light in the morning.
Paying for water. I miss being able to go to the sink and not have to think about having to store up on satchets of water…That's the life here though.
Things I will miss…
The greetings: If you say hello or how are you to somebody, youre likely to get a response distinct from one you may receive in the US. When greeting people here, I’ve noticed that the responses are somewhat along the lines of…
“ahhh” with a wave – meaning, “im fine”
“im fine” – the most typical response, meaning doing well thank you
“im very fine”- you know, doing super duper.
“yeaa!!” – Gotta love this one, I get this from the guys around the hostel, who always seem to be smiling and affirming things I would normally not deem necessary to affirm…but its great.
“It’s cool” or “Bokor” – My favorite response, so imagine… “how are you” “it’s cool man!” Haha. It kills me, makes me laugh all the time.
I’ve mentioned this before, but people love to say, you’re welcome, instead of hello, especially when returning to your domicile. Which brings me to another great thing about Ghanaian culture. If you live in Ghana, you have a community, and once you’re in, youre in. So when I leave for the day, guys are asking me where I’m going, because when you leave, you leave with purpose of coming back…and people want you to know that they at least care about your return. When people leave for a few moments, they’ll walk out of the lobby and say “I’m coming.” At first, I was quite confused by this, first, because all I could think was no no, you’re clearly not coming so much as leaving, and second, it comes completely without stimulus from someone asking. People like knowing where everyone is and making sure they’re accounted for in some respect. The two British guys worked the home-stay route, and said it was great, but if they went out for the evening, and came back past the midnight curfew, the family (the mother especially) would be fretting anxiously. People attach responsibility, more so than anywhere I’ve been, to those with whom they associate. That’s the only way to take care of each other in this society and developing world.
I’ll miss the people smiling at me, especially the kids, because I look different. They’re hilarious. It makes me happy knowing that they’ve been taught not to hate someone so different, but show kindness and respect. Very easy concept, right? If these people were strolling around some streets in the US 50 years ago, they get maybe physically and verbally harassed…because of the color of their skin. Skin color. Parents in the developed world teaching their children to hate perfect strangers. Thinking about it makes me shudder. The kids just don't care, its all love. It’s like the kids in To Kill a Mockingbird. They don't understand why white people hate black people, it doesn't register in their moral code, it doesn't make sense. People try to explain it, but it still doesn't jive with their desire to hang out and play in the tree house with whomever wants to play. Here, I’m constantly reminded of the inside part of people. Yea, youre different, so what? In fact, since, youre different and you probably don't know much about this place, I’m going to show you the wonderland that it is. Can-O-Corn. Biscuit in the basket.
I’ll miss every day being an adventure. My life will undoubtedly never be as unpredictable walking out the door every day than it has been in the last six weeks. Which is tough sometimes, but its welcoming too. Things go wrong, again, so what? A student was explaining this to me the other day, that everything here is more relaxed. If something goes wrong, as it often will, and business is slowed down, big deal. He enjoys this, but realizes it’s part of the reason that his country is less developed than mine. People often complain about how fast paced and rushed everyone is in big cities in the US, but that’s the price that needs to be paid for moving development forward. But I sure don't mind the pace of things here.
Tro-Tros. I’ll miss bobbing around crappy roads packed in with a bunch of people. I’ve sat next to breastfeeding women, been in a trotro with vomiting children, and of course, had the pleasure of goats serenading me all the way home. But usually, its great and the mates never rip you off. There’s a good amount of bickering that goes on amongst the travelers and the mate, but to me, it’s all entertaining.
Unadulterated Nature. When you get out of the city, nature is just that, all natural. I couldn't get enough of it.
Safety. I always felt safe, always. One thing I hate about the US is guns. Guns frighten me really. They kill things. Nobody has guns here. It really puts the “free” in free country. Police have guns slung over their shoulder, but it looks like Mattel shipped them over. Most of them are half made of wood. I walked around for six weeks and had no trouble. Try being black and walking around six weeks by yourself in Alabama, today, and see what kind of trouble you find. You’ll find something I’m sure. Amendments protecting rights are great, but not when their original intention is to support the local militia from rulers thousands of miles away. I would say get with the program, but it’s too late. Crow Island, Columbine, VT, and it’s only going to get worse. I digress. I just don't understand why people get so attached to things that kill other things.
I’ve augmented some of my skills while here as well.
Walking skills. Gotta learn to walk. I wish I had a step counter to see how many steps I took, but it’s the best way to get around, and have some worthwhile interactions as a foreigner. The more you walk, the more you talk to people, the more you learn about Ghana.
Smiling skills. If you smile, life will be better, guaranteed. People will respond better to you, and hassle will be eliminated.
Blinking skills. It’s unbelievable dirty, dusty and sandy in the city to the extent where I find myself blinking more forcefully and rapidly then Magglio Ordonez with the bases chucked. Oh Mags.
I like to think Ghana has toughened me up a bit. I mean, I walk everywhere, eat local food, take cramped smelly transportation, got malaria, come home take a cold shower, bang a little on my chest, and I’m good as Ghanaian with the bleached skin. Nuh uh. Even at $12 a night here at the hostel, I was living the high life over here. I don't know how else to say it, people have it rough. They sell goods atop their head, wading through traffic hoping to grab a customer, all through the summer heat and humidity of equatorial Africa. Then they go back to the outskirts of the trotro station and sleep alongside of the rest of the vendors on cardboard, on sidewalks, on rocks…Oh and the mosquitos are keeping a nice watch on them as well. It’s awful really, and that's what a good percentage of the city dwellers do here. Dudes man trotros, and chicks place goods atop their heads. There’s a picture of a little boy who, when saw me confused in the station, asked me where I was going. He took my hand and led the way. He’s getting ready to drive trotros one day when he’s old enough. They do their best at what they do, but almost no person here is given the shot I have been given at life. Almost nobody. People over here would do anything for education and when I say I’m here doing research, they get excited. They want more flow of knowledge in Ghana. They know their country has the resources; they just need to get the support to tap them. Yet when I see the signs, posters, t-shirts (I have one) and billboards all celebrating the 50 year anniversary of its independence, sometimes I wonder, what are they celebrating? The barren eyesore that is Independence Square (a place solely used for celebrations) on prime location in Accra, is perfectly indicative of Ghana using its resources to celebrate at the cost of its people. I look at people using wells, residing in mud huts and living off their farm land and I think, was this exactly the same 50 years ago? More importantly, will this be the same 50 years from now?? Probably. Life in the city is becoming increasingly business friendly, but you venture outside and you go back to 18th century lifestyles. From an aid standpoint, Bill gates said it best (thanks Dad), “We can make market forces work better for the poor if we can develop a more creative capitalism – if we can stretch the reach of market forces so that more people can make a profit, or at least make a living, serving people who are suffering from the worst inequities…If we can find approaches that meet the needs of the poor in ways that generate profits for business and votes for politicians, we will have found a sustainable way to reduce inequity in the world. This task is open-ended. It can never be finished. But a conscious effort to answer this challenge will change the world.” It can happen, private and public sector support programs alike. It can happen. I hope I can make it happen. I’ve learned how tremendously difficult it is though. Costs are high, especially when reaching those most in need. Money often gets misplaced in the still corrupt government here. Infrastructure, health care, more outreach. It’s all needed. Maybe, if we’re smart, we’ll do something to help.
This last day here has been surreal. Which reminds me, I can't wait to get off these malaria pills that have me waking up feeling like Joan Miro just used my brain as his canvas. So much has happened in six weeks, I'm ready to come home, but I will be forever grateful that this oppurtunity fell into my lap. No regrets.